Our new single of the month is nobody’s fool…
By Ursula Lauriston
Sacha Simmons, a fierce twenty something, lives by one motto, “don’t tell me, show me.” Sacha is the oldest of three siblings and loves her family and friends, eating and working out. The LA native resides in Georgetown with her two best friends in a town house that they like to call “The Lioness Den.” The lioness sat down with Twenty Something to share her DC dating yays and nays.
Name: Sacha Simmons
Hometown: Los Angeles
Occupation: Securities Consultant
Twenty Something: Talk to us about your DC dating experience.
Sacha Simmons: DC is a special place for Twenty Something’s. DC has a high concentration of attractive, motivated people so it ends up being uneven because there are so many available women. Guys end up dating a ton of women, so I figure I should keep up and do the same. I like dating and networking too.
TS: On a first date, do you offer to pick up the check?
SS: No. And I shouldn’t be expected to.
TS: Where’s the best place to pick up a guy in DC? What do you want/ look for in a guy?
SS: I like picking up guys at the gym. They have stamina, muscles– all good things. Personal trainers are great. I don’t really care about what they do or how much money they have. I know a lot of women here care about that. I met a hot construction worker once and invited him out for drinks.
TS: So you wouldn’t be embarrassed to introduce your construction worker boyfriend to your consultant friends?
SS: No, not at all. The thing is I wouldn’t introduce anyone to anyone. I don’t introduce people I work with to someone I’m dating. I have to keep those separate. But I’m never embarrassed. I just have to be into someone before I can introduce them to anyone.
TS: What are you looking for in a guy?
SS: I definitely don’t have a type. Right now I want someone who’s at the same speed as me. If you’re good looking and hard working you’re probably my type. I enjoy men who have energy and like doing things.
TS: So you’re not looking for a serious relationship?
SS: No. Not at all. Me and my roommates have come up with a phrase—“no feelings”. Which just means don’t get caught up and don’t forget your friends. I have a few friends who have boyfriends and they completely forget their friends. That’s not what I’m trying to do. And saying no feelings is how we get through that.
TS: I’m really interested in this “no feelings” expression. Do you think you use it because you’re tired of being hurt?
SS: You’re right. You have to open up and when you do you risk getting hurt. I’m not scared of getting hurt or falling in love. I just don’t want someone to be annoyed because I didn’t call them back.
TS: Do you think women give up more in relationships than men?
SS: I think every relationship is different. And I think I have a bias because I have more women friends telling me what they have to go through with their boyfriends. In a good relationship it’s two sided and both people are giving things up.
TS: Any last words of knowledge for our single twenty something’s dating in the city?
SS: There are plenty of fish in the sea; especially in this city. Be serious about your independence. We’re young and live in a city of limitless opportunities.
Ursula Lauriston is the author of Twenty Something, a social diary blog where she sounds off weekly on dating, D.C nightlife and events, career etiquette, and more. During the day, Ursula stays in step with the pulse of DC with her work as a Deputy Press Secretary on Capitol Hill. Follow me on Twitter.