Five reasons why it never goes past the first date
By Ursula Lauriston
1. You think you need to spend a ton of money or plan a big elaborate date.
Many men are under the impression that all women are after their money. News flash guys – we have our own money. Whatever you do, it’s the thought and effort you put into it that will leave a lasting impression. Feel free to drop $200 for a stuffy dinner at one of D.C.’s finest restaurants; however, if you don’t ask the girl a single thing about herself then that dinner will probably never happen again. Plan a practically free picnic in the park on a beautiful Saturday night and you might just be starting something good.
2. You talk about sex on the first date.
Talking about sex by either party on a first date is a bad idea. What happens on the first date sets the precedent for the rest of the relationship. If you want to actually have some sort of future with this person, don’t make them feel like you’re just trying to get in their pants.
3. You don’t know how to keep the momentum going.
So the first date was amazing. The chemistry was off the charts, she laughed at all your awful jokes and you’re attracted to her. Then you let two weeks go by before you call again. If you have an amazing time with someone, you have to be consistent and keep the momentum going. You do this by setting up a second date on your first date. This lets her know you genuinely enjoy spending time with her and that you mean business.
4. You’re waiting for that one girl who shares your affinity for video games, a certain beer or some no name band.
I’ve done the research and unfortunately nothing suggests that a woman dominating in Dungeons and Dragons qualifies her as a wonderful girlfriend or potential wife. So instead of waiting for the girl who knows everything about old school hip-hop, wait for the one who knows how to make you happy. The old school hip-hop is just the icing on the cake.
5. You’ve literally forgotten how to use the call function on your phone.
Texting a girl you just met is a cop out. Have courage and pick up the phone. And ladies, when he calls make sure to respond promptly. It’s the respectful thing to do.
You’re welcome Twenty Somethings.
Ursula Lauriston is the author of Twenty Something, a social diary blog where she sounds off weekly on dating, D.C nightlife and events, career etiquette, and more. During the day, Ursula stays in step with the pulse of DC with her work as a Deputy Press Secretary on Capitol Hill. Follow me on Twitter.