Four steps to turn STRESS into CALM on your first date
By Ursula Lauriston
No first date jitters here.
These four helpful tips will transform your shrinking nerves into nerves of steel.
Take a deep breath
The only reason you’re nervous is because this is going to be a new experience with a new person. Before you call and cancel, realize these new things are what life is all about. If all else fails, at least you’ve made a new friend. So instead of focusing on the “if’s” of the night, take a deep breath and go make memories.
Prepare talking points
Step away from the pen and paper. There is no way you’re walking out of the house with actual, physical talking points.
I know you’re nervous, but you’re not crazy. As long as you know the topics/ appropriate jokes you want to talk about while you’re hanging out, you’re sure to have an upbeat time. Having a list of things in mind to talk about is not going to guarantee a great date, but preparation almost always guarantees a smoother ride.
The work you put into it – be it into your appearance or the date itself—will come through.
I’m not telling you to spend hours coming up with things to say, but being prepared to talk about your weekend or that crazy night on U St. isn’t a bad idea.
Get there early
Meeting up somewhere? Try and get there at least 10 minutes before your date. Not only will you impress your date with your punctuality, but getting to the restaurant early will give you a chance to claim your space and your nerves. You get to familiarize yourself with the surroundings and might avoid looking lost or confused when your date arrives.
Give yourself a break, and some credit
Have fun and remember your date is probably just as nervous as you are. So go expecting only this: to laugh, wine, and dine. You’re welcome Twenty Something’s.
